Saturday, March 31, 2012

Taming Mount Laundry

My brain is tired. 

I have a lot of things going through my mind right now: things that are going on in our lives, loved ones in the hospital, the schedules to keep, bills to pay, and people to see.  And, of course, there are also the many blog posts I would like to write in response to unthinking bloggers who write posts about The Hunger Games without finishing the movie or reading the books.  On top of that, there are parenting blogs to write, and so many more…

And I cannot get to those posts because I had to take a minute (actually – an entire day) to attend to those mundane things that require our attention and our time….like folding towels.

I could have named the mountain of laundry that had overtaken the laundry table in our laundry room.  First of all, stop and think about this: I have a laundry table in a laundry room.  Until moving into our current home, we had lived in two bedroom apartments that had the laundry machines in our kitchen.  I folded laundry in the living room, on my bed, or on the couch.  I now have a room with a table for this task!  And guess what?  When you have a room with a door that can be closed, things can hide in there…like a mountain of laundry!

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I spent the better part of an hour taming the mountain into a neat stack of towels. It was so therapeutic.  The mountain of towels represented what has been a very hectic two months of speech season when the kids and I have passed every Saturday at a school – they as competitors and I as a judge.  It has been a great two months, but laundry – a task which can be done as needed but eventually caught up to me – had been neglected.  When we needed a new towel, we just went to Mount Laundry and grabbed it.  While this is a great coping skill, it is not the way that I like to lead my life.  I have a towel cupboard, and that is where the towels belong. 

Today was the day to tame the craze of the past two months and restore all to its normal state.  The table now is clear of towels and other items and can be used for folding clothes as they come out of the dryer rather than for storing them as they wait for me to do what needs to be done.

Mount Laundry, though not a problem in and of itself, represents how I can just let things go until they overwhelm me. I probably could have tamed the mountain a few weeks ago, but at that point I was simply too overwhelmed with the craze.  This is so backwards! In letting it go even longer, the mountain only grew as more towels found their way to the top of the mountain.  In taming the mountain today, I have cleared the slate and can start over.  I need to attend to the business when it presents itself rather than putting it off until tomorrow.

Earlier this week, a friend and I started “Water Only April” a bit early.  She stated on Facebook that she would like to drink only water for the month of April and wanted to know if anyone would join her.  I need to get some of my “drink calories” under control, so I was game; however, I asked if we could start the next day.  I knew that if I waited even another five days, I would not be dedicated to do so.  In the meantime, I would have schemed and cooked up many reason to avoid the mountain rather than to tame it.  And, believe me, this mountain is much harder to tame than Mount Laundry!

What motivates you to get things done today rather than putting them off until tomorrow?  How can we stay focused on tasks at hand rather than on constant distraction?

Do you have a Mount Laundry waiting for you to tame?  Good Luck!

Friday, March 30, 2012

A Night of Drivel and Darling

IMG-20120329-00366Last night was opening night of Radio Daze, a play portraying the life and times of a 1940s radio show (aka “soap opera”) called Dreams and Delusions on the brink of becoming a television show.  In addition to the “drama” of that pressure, there is also a German spy in and a US federal agent in their midst.  As the script description says, “Overheard rumors, mixed-up scripts, and leaked ‘secret information’ combine with romance and laughter to make you stay tuned for a play that's a salute to the glorious ‘daze’ of radio!”  Full of laughs, intrigue, and flirting, this comedy’s large cast of characters entertained me and about 100 others last night and will tonight and tomorrow as well. 

Fridley High School’s drama team has pulled this off!

Of course, I have some major connections to this show. 

IMG-20120329-00363The girl plays “Darla Drivel,” one of the writers on the show.  One of the funniest lines in the show is when the sponsor says, “It’s just a whole lot of Drivel.”  This is one of the many plays on words in the show in addition to fun figures of speech such as “letting the cat out of the bag.”  The girl’s husband – “Mr. Drivel” – and she have a friendship off-stage that allows them to portray this couple’s friendship well.  Many thanks to Michelle, friend and owner of Texture Salon (on our block!) who is doing the girl’s hair each night.  It is perfect!

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The boy plays “Dash Darling,” an aging star with grey hair and a belly (yes, they had to add a pillow or something to the boy’s middle!) who also plays “ Dr. Jonathan Worthy” on the radios show.  Dr. Worthy is supposed to be young and “dashing.”  He and his love interest on radio “Linda Stern” played by “Connie Carol” played by a talented senior have some of the funniest interplays on stage.  And the boy wins the award for “best line of the show” with his dashing, booming voice as he says, “Everybody hide!”

If you need a laugh, the $9 admission fee for adults and $6 admission fee for students or seniors is well worth it.  And if you come to the show, you will get to see me in my usual spot – in the ticket box.  Parent involvement in their kids’ activities is important, but that is another post…off to my “real" job for the day!

Happy Friday!

Thursday, March 29, 2012

Hunger Games: Sick or Meaningful?

Thank you to all who have made comments on my posts about The Hunger Games over the past few days (See Hunger Games? Parents Do Your Job! and Hunger Games – Disturbing?  Indeed…).  Your thoughts and questions as well as reading the thoughts of others (including my huz and a good friend) continue to push me to think more and more about the books (yes, I have read all three through one time and should probably read them again) and the movie.  I find this helpful, and I hope that you find it helpful as well.

While many put these movies and books into the same genre as the Twilight series and Harry Potter series, I would oppose that sweeping generalization.  The young adult literature (or teen fiction) genre has been flooded in recent years with books that are meant to draw in the teen readers. It is excellent, of course, that teens are reading given the state of reading abilities and test scores in our country.  However,  I would not say that Twilight has the same literary value as The Hunger Games.  In fact, seeing a trailer for the last Twilight movie was the worst part of the theater experience for me last Friday.  Those are 90 seconds that I will never get back…

And I digress…

If one does any Google searches to read up on The Hunger Games (which, by the way, I think is fine as long as there is caution not to critique until one has actually read them…sorry – pet peeve) and on the author Suzanne Collins, one will likely come across the reading list of Collins herself as a teenager.  When I saw that Lord of the Flies, Slaughter-House Five, and 1984 were on her favorite list, I realized that The Hunger Games are a culmination of what Collins has read as well as experienced. 

1984, Brave New World, and Lord of the Flies met with similar opposition when they first published. Each of them describe what could be in the future. When 1984 published “way back” in 1949, the world could not conceive of the concepts that Orwell suggested. However, the work has remained relevant to this day and continues to warn even our society of the potential harm to society when government gets into our private matters.

Consider the November 2011 question before the US Supreme Court when the US government argued that it should be allowed to continue to use GPS tracking of peopl without first seeking a warrant. Justice Stephen Breyer stated: "If you win this case, then there is nothing to prevent the police or the government from monitoring 24 hours a day the public movement of every citizen of the United States. So if you win, you suddenly produce what sounds like 1984...."

In the Scholastic interview with Collins, she cites her interest in Roman history as well as Greek and Roman myths as laying the foundation for the books, but it was not until one night as she watched television that the story started itself:

I was channel surfing between reality TV programming and actual war coverage when Katniss’s story came to me. One night I’m sitting there flipping around and on one channel there’s a group of young people competing for, I don’t know, money maybe? And on the next, there’s a group of young people fighting an actual war. And I was tired, and the lines began to blur in this very unsettling way, and I thought of this story.

If I imagine myself in the shoes of Collins, I have a rich literary background including mythology, history, and ground-breaking futuristic novels warning about what society could become that collides with an evening of shocking television (trust me – I can understand the way that reality tv and something about war could seem to be shocking).  What would I have done?  Well – if I had any writing talent, which Collins already had proven she had, I would have had to write the story that came to me.  I would have been compelled, as compelled as I have been to write my thoughts about the movie, to write that story to demonstrate what could happen in our society if we do not pay attention to the path we are on with entertainment.

This is not Twilight with vampires or Harry Potter with wizards (both stories, by the way, do have “human” characters, but we tolerate them better because they are not “real”) because, in The Hunger Games, we face ourselves – there is no mistake that these children could be our children or us.  Instead, these books and this movie fall into a category that is typically saved for historical tellings of past tragedy. 

As I went to bed on Tuesday night, I read the following comment from a reader (whom, by the way, I thank for commenting at length!):

Throughout the movie, I felt myself being pulled into the story and then I would stop and remember that these were children with parents watching and probably hoping that their child survived. Even as good as the movie appeared to be, it wasn’t good enough to negate the disturbing idea behind it. … Would that have sucked me in even more? To accept the idea of children having to live in fear in this type of society? I don’t see how all the people sitting in the movie theaters watching The Hunger Games is any different from the spectators in the movie who were watching on and enjoying this and calling it entertainment.

As I read the comment, the memory of another movie popped into my thoughts – Schindler’s List. I was a freshman in college when the film version of the book Schindler’s Ark (published 1982) came out in theaters. The film received seven Academy Awards, and high schools around the country took students to see the movie. I saw it twice in the theaters – once with my parents and younger brother and once with my grandmother. The first time I saw it (with my grandmother), we sat in silence at the end of the film…glued to our seats in shock and despair at what humanity is capable of doing to its own. Tears spilled out of our eyes throughout the entire film. My grandfather and my grandmother’s brothers had been in the military during World War II; there was much for us both to process.

IMG-20120328-00361In our collection of movies in our basement are two movies that I consider to be ones that are not for entertainment purposes but rather for remembrance or warning purposes.  They are not movies that we watch over and over again; in fact, I have not yet seen The Passion by Mel Gibson although I will likely need to do so before my children ask to see it.  They are nearing graduation from high school and will soon make their own choices about what to see and what not to see.  I want to maintain my influence in their lives, and the best way to do that is to be credible by knowing what I am talking about.

Schindler’s List is as horrific, if not moreso, that The Hunger Games.  With its R rating, the historic retelling in very graphic details of the Holocaust is sickening.  But it was also so meaningful.  I left the movie theatre sick with grief that this could happen and that it had happened in my grandmother’s lifetime…but I also left the movie theatre with hope – hope that we could change things, that my generation would not tolerate this, and that we would take the lessons from the past and make sure that this did not happen in the future.

That has not been the case as there are genocides and holocaust-like actions every day…but I still have hope that we will continue to learn and apply the lessons learned from history to make the future brighter.

One of the main themes in The Hunger Games is the tension between fear and hope.  In one of the scenes that only exist in the movie (because they are outside of Katniss’s first person limited narrator perspective), President Snow and Head Gamemaker Seneca Crane discuss the power of fear versus hope.  Click here to watch the scene.

“Seneca, why do you think we have a winner?,” Snow asks while cutting a white rose.

“What do you mean?,” Seneca asks.

“I mean, why do we have a winner?,” Snow repeats, before pausing. “Hope.”

“Hope?,” Seneca replies slightly bewildered.

“Hope, it is the only thing stronger than fear. A little hope is effective, a lot of hope is
dangerous,” Snow declares.

Hope is stronger than fear.  In the arena, Katniss finds hope, and that is how she survives.  It is not by becoming driven by fear to the point that she actively kills off the other participants. Rather, she learns to protect because of hope.

This lesson is, in my opinion, the strength of the books and the strength of the movie.

In what do we find hope?  How does hope shape our outlook on the world today and in the future?  And – perhaps most importantly – what do we hope will change in our world?

Once we can identify that, we then need to act on that hope and make changes in our own lives, model change for others, and encourage change so that hope is possible for all.

The Hunger Games – sick or meaningful?  I vote “meaningful.”

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

“I Won’t Give Up On Us”

I had been in Grand Forks, ND, from Saturday until last night.  As part of my job, I attend court to provide testimony in truancy cases for the students who attend my school.  People ask me if I am the advocate for the student or the state in these cases. My answer is always that I simply provide accurate attendance records which then allows the judges to determine what to do with students. Yesterday, I was in court for one of my students in Crookston, MN.

wedAs I drove the five hours home after court, I heard the same song twice on the radio.  The song made me cry both times.  The song has a great melody and even better lyrics.  I adore my husband, but we have had our less than perfect times in our marriage.  Even though most of our rough times are not very public ones, we have had our share of difficult moments (or days…or months…or however long they are…).  One thing that I have always been amazed about in those moments is that we have never said that we give up.  We have always said that we will keep working on whatever it is that is not going well.  By my own admission, I am not an easy person to live with – but who is, really? 

And I am so grateful that my husband puts up with me.

I Won’t Give Up On Us by Jason Mraz – click here for the link to the song on YouTube

When I look into your eyes
It's like watching the night sky
Or a beautiful sunrise
There's so much they hold
And just like them old stars
I see that you've come so far
To be right where you are
How old is your soul?

How old is your soul?  Ponder that…

I won't give up on us
Even if the skies get rough
I'm giving you all my love
I'm still looking up

For better…or for worse…

And when you're needing your space
To do some navigating
I'll be here patiently waiting
To see what you find
'Cause even the stars they burn
Some even fall to the earth
We've got a lot to learn
God knows we're worth it
No, I won't give up

Isn’t it amazing when the ones that we love are willing to give us the space we need to think things through?  My husband is actually someone I can use as a sounding board when things are a little nutty in my mind.

And God truly does know that we are worth it.  God is cheering for every marriage relationship.  He wants them all to succeed.  Although He loves us through it when our relationships fail, His heart breaks.

I don't wanna be someone who walks away so easily
I'm here to stay and make the difference that I can make
Our differences they do a lot to teach us how to use
The tools and gifts we got yeah, we got a lot at stake
And in the end, you're still my friend at least we did intend
For us to work we didn't break, we didn't burn
We had to learn how to bend without the world caving in
I had to learn what I've got, and what I'm not
And who I am

I love these lyrics!  Every marriage has a lot at stake because people get hurt when marriages don’t make it.  And we learn so much from each other and through adversity. 

The problem seems to be when we stop committing to the togetherness of our relationship, when we stop committing to not breaking, and when we stop committing to learning how to bend.

The reason that the song made me cry is because I was overwhelmed with gratitude for the husband that I have, the family that I have, and the life that I have.

I won't give up on us
Even if the skies get rough
I'm giving you all my love
I'm still looking up

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

The Bully on the Bus

The mother watched for the bus to arrive at the bus stop.  For the past week, some big girl had been picking on her daughter, and the mother planned to put a stop to it.  Every day, her daughter arrived home in tears because the big girl picked on her.  Some days, the big girl stole her daughter’s winter hat as her daughter entered the bus to ride home.  The big girl always returned the hat, of course, but her daughter did not know that she would.  Other days, the big girl taunted her daughter about being small or about crying when the big girl took her hat.

The mother’s hear broke because her daughter loved school but hated the bus ride home.  However, the family only had one car, and the father needed it to go to work.  The family lived nearly two miles from the school, and the daughter was in first grade.  They could not walk her to school and home again, and they certainly could not allow her to walk alone as there were many dangerous intersections between the school and their home.

The mother tried to get her daughter to tell her the big girl’s name, but her daughter did not know it.  Her mother wanted to call the school to see if she could get the big girl’s phone number. Then she could have called the family to see if the parents would get the girl to stop picking on her daughter.  More than likely, though, even if she had known the big girl’s name, the school could not give out the family’s information.  The mother had tried to get the school to do something about it, but they said that it was not a big deal. They had no reports of any harassment on the bus  Her daughter’s teacher sympathized but said it was not impacting the girl’s schoolwork.

The mother decided that there was only one thing left to do. 

Waiting for the bus to arrive at the bus stop, she could feel the blood in her veins start to coarse more quickly.  Her breath and heart rate increased.  She was angry.  Some big girl was picking on her daughter; it was time to make her see the error of her ways. Today was the day that would end all of this nonsense.  Today was the day when her daughter’s crying would stop.  Today was the day when that big girl would understand that no one – not even a big girl – could mess with the mother’s daughter.

The bus arrived, and she watched for the big girl.  She looked into the eyes of each of the students who came off the bus.  Who is it?  She saw her daughter and put out her arms.

“Which one is she?” the mother asked her daughter who then pointed.

The mother, startled, questioned, “Are you sure?”  The daughter nodded.

The “big girl” was a short, chubby girl with glasses.  She could have not been more awkward if she had tried.  This threw the mother off her a game just a bit, and her anger simmered down a notch.  Today would not be the day for revenge.  But something still needed to be done.

“You there, “ she said as she pointed to the chubby girl.  “What is your name?”

“Stacy,” the girl replied confidently. “Why do you ask?”

“You have been picking on my daughter.  Why are you doing that?  You are not so tough.  You are not even that big.  Why would you pick on her?  Look at your brother over there – he isn’t even that much older than my daughter.  Why are you picking on her?”  The words fell from the mother’s mouth as if she had rehearsed them.  Every time she said the word why, she pounded her fist at her side…the anger so close but so controlled.

“I don’t know, “ the girl shrugged as confidence drained from her.

“Well…it’s over.  No more of that.  It doesn’t make you any better.  Those other kids won’t think you are cool because you pick on my daughter.  Don’t do it anymore,” the mother said as her words pierced the girl.

“You aren’t going to tell my parents, are you?” the girl asked.  Obviously, this would be bad news for her.

“I won’t…if you stop it.  And – if you want my daughter home every day from the bus. If you miss school, you need to call me so that I know to meet her at the bus stop.  Will you do that?”

The girl nodded.

“And – you have to keep anyone else from picking on her.  If you don’t protect her, who will?”

The girl nodded again.

And that is how I spent the rest of the school year.  I sat with the little girl.  I made sure no one picked on her.  And I walked her home every day before I returned to my own house.

We all have the potential to be bullies unless someone is willing to put us in our place or keep us in check.  The best way to do that is to make us work out our own demons so that we can see the world through different eyes.  I was a good kid, but I had made some bad choices.  I was not physically hurting this little girl, but I was not being kind.  Her mom somehow knew that she could trust me to do what she had asked, and it made me a better person because of it.

This is the second installment in a series about bullying.  Installment five will discuss information from the Search Institute as ways to teach students how to better themselves instead of using anti-bullying curriculum.

Hunger Games: More Thoughts from Others

As one Facebook friend stated yesterday, there is a “hunger” for some knowledge, information, and common sense when it comes to The Hunger Games.

In that spirit, I would like to share links to two other blogs who have posted incredible thoughts about the violence in the The Hunger Games or have offered thoughts about whether children should read the books or attend the movie.

ParentFurther is the parenting “arm” of the Search Institute, a research organization that promotes building assets in youth.  In their blog article titled, “Hungry for Knowledge: A Multi-Generational Take on the Hunger Games,”  the staff and a staff person’s teenage daughter weigh in on their thoughts about the books and the movies.  Excellent thoughts!

My friend Marilyn Gardner and I have been sharing a similar brain this week. It has simply been a conversation back and forth.  So fun!  Today, she posted what I had hoped she would post after she had commented at length with similar material.  You can find her blog by clicking here, but she has granted me permission to simply cut and paste her content here.  Please visit her blog and comment there as well as here (if you choose to do so).  We would both love to hear from you!

When Kid Kill Kids by Marilyn Gardner (originally posted on her blog).

When our daughter Annie was two years old she saw television for the first time. We were in Islamabad, Pakistan and she was invited to a birthday party of some older children. My husband took her while I stayed home with our brand new baby boy. When they came home he relayed to me her reaction to this first time of watching TV. She was watching a cartoon and the character was hit over the head with something. As often happens with cartoons, there was a bonk, birds flew over the head of the character and then the scene faded out. She began to cry. She thought the character was dead and was inconsolable. In her 2-year-old mind she was unable to distinguish real from imaginary on the screen.

This is huge. Until a child is seven years old, they cannot differentiate between imaginary and real; fantasy and reality. So when young children see television violence, it’s accepted as not only real, but a part of “normal” life.

Lieutenant Colonel David Grossman, in an article released in 2000 called “Trained to Kill”, speaks in-depth to this problem. In nature, he says, “Healthy members of most species have a powerful, natural resistance to killing their own kind.” So while rattlesnakes bite others, they wrestle each other; while piranhas use their fangs on others, they fight each other by flicking their tails. So it is true with humans – we don’t naturally want to kill, we are taught to kill.

He talks about three ways of being conditioned to kill – the first is something we would think of when we think of boot camp. Everyone is taken and their heads are shaved, they are shouted at, they get up at unearthly hours and go through relentless discipline and violence. At the end the recruit believes this is normal. This is a perfect segue into a war zone.

The second is “classical conditioning” where violence is associated with pleasure. The author would suggest that “classical conditioning” takes place in kids as they watch violence while eating their favorite foods of popcorn and soda, or smelling a girlfriend’s perfume, all while watching horrific movie violence as “entertainment”.

The third is “operant conditioning” which is a stimulus response. This is where in target practice a target shaped like a man would pop up. If you shoot the target correctly, it will fall, and so on. Contrast this, he says, to video games, where for hours at a time a kid is pointing and shooting, pointing and shooting, getting better and better at hitting the targets and gaining points every time they do so.

The article is well worth looking at and provides irrefutable evidence of the problem: all this is teaching kids how to kill. The evidence is present in the tragedies that read like headlines from newspapers – because they are.

  • Jonestown, Arkansas Massacre 1998 – An 11 and a 13 year-old, camouflaged in the woods kill four kids and a teacher with ten others wounded.
  • Paducah, Kentucky 1999 – A 14-year-old opens fire on a prayer group at school and hits eight kids.
  • Columbine High School, 1999 – Two kids in trench coats terrorize the school ultimately killing twelve students, one teacher. 21 other students are injured and ultimately the kids kill themselves.

There are more but this makes the point. All of these have one thing in common – they are kids killing kids. It begs the question: Why are we shocked when we see child soldiers from the widely seen Kony 2012 video?

So why am I suddenly bringing up violence and kids killing kids? In the newly released movie “The Hunger Games” that is the premise and it has some people disturbed. And that is the very point of the author. My friend Stacy, who blogs at Slowing the Racing Mind, wrote an excellent post on this called “Hunger Games – Disturbing? Indeed” Suzanne Collins, author of The Hunger Games, wants us to be disturbed so that we can discuss this and question it, talk with our kids and know that there are times where we must stand up to what is wrong.

I won’t go into The Hunger Games further, as others have done a fine job of doing just that, but I would argue books like these, and movies like these, are not what creates violence in our kids. It’s gratuitous violence in movies and video games that evokes laughter as opposed to tears, mocking as opposed to compassion. That’s what we should be worried about. Crying because a 12-year-old was killed in a society’s sick attempt at control is a human response; laughing when a teacher tells you that a middle schooler ambushed a school, killing kids and a teacher, is a an inhuman response born of inappropriate exposure to violence at young ages.

It’s a big issue – What do you think?

“On June 10th, 1992, the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) published a definitive study on the impact of TV violence. In nations, regions, or cities where television appears there is an immediate explosion of violence on the playground, and within 15 years there is a doubling of the murder rate. Why 15 years? That’s how long it takes for a brutalized toddler to reach the “prime crime” years. That’s how long it takes before you begin to reap what you sow when you traumatize and desensitize children. (Centerwall, 1992).” (from Teaching Our Kids to Kill)

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Thank you, Marilyn!

Monday, March 26, 2012

The Hunger Games–Others’ Thoughts

For the past two days, I have shared my thoughts on the movie of The Hunger Games.  

In Saturday’s post, I shared my thoughts about the age of children attending the movie and about parents needing to do their job in terms of making well-thought out decisions in this.  I have been very encouraged to hear from many parents who are willing to stand up and parent by choosing to keep their children at home rather than bowing to the fear of being uncool.  Kudos to you all!

In Sunday’s post, I reflected a bit about the fact that the author intends for us to be shocked by the events in the books and the movie.  I also questioned if we are willing to collectively take a stand against the media and its prolific use of violence as entertainment. 

For today, I would like to share with readers some of the articles I have found to be helpful in terms of clarifying my own thoughts about why these books are so important for young adults (note: I suggest 12 and older!) and “real” adults to read.  I propose that they are important because of the fact that they caution our very own society in terms of how we deal with many issues facing us today.  I also propose that parents should be reading this along with their children (I did not read them at the same time as my son’s original reading, and I regret that) so that conversations can occur.

The website Plugged In does a great job reviewing the movie, providing warnings to parents (detailed), and weighing the cost/benefit ratio when asking the question, “To see or not to see?”

Scholastic (publisher of The Hunger Games) has an awesome question and answer conversation with author, Suzanne Collins.  Any time that we can hear directly from the author, I think we are blessed.  The most compelling item for me is the last page when Collins shares her favorite books as a teenager.  Notice that 1984 and Lord of the Flies were on the list!  Things we read definitely influence us…

A very interesting article on Entertainment Weekly’s blog talks about the issues surrounding what the movie’s rating (PG-13 or R) would be and how that would determine its success in the theaters.  This article, written in October 2010, had some pretty spot-on predictions as to how the producers would “achieve” the PG-13 rating. To be honest, I am glad that it landed in the PG-13 realm.  It could not have been any lower than that and still be true to the plot line; however, an R rating would have crossed over in to the very thing that Collins warns about – violence for the sake of violence rather than to draw an emotional response to possible action.

relevantRelevant Magazine’s article “Let the Hunger Games Begin” is one that highlights how the books/movie interact with the concepts of community, freedom, and faith.

I think this article rocks.

Enough said.

Before I sign off, I wanted to share with you all (whether  teachers [oh, how I wish I still taught English in the classroom – can we say assignment?], parents, or kids) that there is an awesome video review contest hosted by Common Sense Media.  Those aged 13-18 can enter a 2 minute video review of The Hunger Games movie addressing the appropriate age to see the movie and why.  GREAT prizes, and a great contest topic! 

Let me know in the comment section below if you or someone you know enters…just because I’m curious.

Happy Monday!

Sunday, March 25, 2012

Hunger Games? Parents: Do Your Job!

FamgamesOn Friday night, the fam headed to St Anthony Main Theatre.  This is a great find for those who live in Minneapolis, by the way.  I work a few blocks away, and it turned out to be one of the few theatres with tickets available in the Twin Cities on Friday.  We all headed there a few hours before the show started. The huz and the girl started the line while the boy and I ate at Tuggs Tavern and then got food to go for the huz and the girl.  I have to say that the theatre staff is by far the best movie theatre staff I have ever encountered.  They let us eat food from a different location while in line, and a staff member actually brought us glasses of water.  This is good customer service!

A few months ago, one of my favorite bands (The Civil Wars) mentioned that they had written a song of their own and had co-written a song (Safe and Sound) with Taylor Swift for a companion album for The Hunger Games soundtrack. The boy had read The Hunger Games triology a few years ago as they had come out, and several friends – near and far – had read the books as well.  The huz started to read the books in anticipation of the movie (we tend to want to do that), and I followed suit. The girl finished the first book just in time for a family viewing of the movie.  There was some kind of unwritten rule that we all had to read the book before we could see it.  I do think that the boy  and the huz had threatened to go without us if we had not finished the book in time…

We all devoured these books.  The genre of the books is young adult/teen literature – a genre that currently pulls in children, teens, and adults alike.  Think Twilight and Harry Potter.  Books in this genre tend to push the envelope with themes in terms of whether or not children and young teens should read them.  They appeal to adults (often women) because there tend to be a strong female protagonist who reminds us of ourselves.  I would argue that Bella does not fit this description entirely – except that most of us have felt the draw to a “bad boy” at some point in our lives, but that was several blog posts previously.  And the reading level is not very stretching.  Even though they tend to be long, they do not tend to be difficult.

As I have mentioned in several blog posts, I am not good at summarizing.  Please refer to the Wikipedia summary as it does a decent job with it.  There may be spoiler moments in the summary and in the rest of this post, but I am guessing that you do not mind if you are reading this as a concerned parent.  What do people expect, right?  This is a book/movie about a bunch of kids killing themselves.  I cannot share my thoughts with you and worry that I am going to spoil your viewing.  Sorry…

One thing that, as a former English teacher, I must point out is that books with similar themes have been around for years.  Whether we liked them or not, most of us had to read Brave New World and 1984.  My son said that more people would enjoy these if there were some action scenes in them like there is in The Hunger Games.   By the way – he has read both of them in the past year, so he knows what he is talking about.

In recent years, The Giver – another young adult lit book – explored similar themes.  Additionally, The Lottery is an excellent short story very similar to The Hunger Games.  All of these works have similarities in the sense that they attempt to warn us about handing too much control over to the government or about becoming a society so concerned about individual pleasure that we lose our way.  These themes are important for us to consider when reading The Hunger Games, but honestly most of the themes get lost on those who focus on the tensions of a love story or on the “excitement” (no matter how twisted) of the games themselves.

To answer most people’s first question – I thought the movie was excellent and would see it again.  I had my disappointments, but the huz and the boy have convinced me that most of my them were necessary in the condensing of a book with time to develop great characters into a movie.  What I appreciated most was being able to experience interactions between people outside of Katniss’s limited perspective in the books. In addition, the use of imagery hearkening back to German concentration camps (District 12), the costumes showing the stark contrast between the district people and those in the Capital, and the Capital bravado reminding me of scenes of Hitler or Stalin truly enhanced my understanding of The Hunger Games.

That being said…

My concerns are numerous when considering the age of children who are attending the movie.  I actually Googled this, and it is a hot topic!  As we sat in the theatre on Friday night, I observed several children between the ages of 7 and 10.  This is just too young, and I will not apologize for saying that.  If the children have read the books already, the parents are not doing a good job of being a discussion with their children about their reading lists.  Almost every website, reading list site, and the author’s own site recommend readers be 12 or older (and many stress that “older if child is sensitive”).  

Schools should not be putting this on recommended reading lists for anyone under 6th grade.  If you child has a teacher in grades K-5 who has recommended the book, perhaps you should refer him or her to Suzanne Collins’ own website.  If the author is recommending her own book for an older crowd, perhaps we should listen. 

The movie is rated PG-13.  We have ratings for a reason, and – as parents – we should consider this before taking children under the age of 13 to any movie with that rating.  The concepts in the books/movie are very complicated, the “love scenes” – though not explicit in any way – are confusing, and the violence is very real.

The violence is very real.  Overall, I thought that the violence was done tastefully. On most occasions, the “killing” scenes show blood spattering and weapons flying in the air. This takes the focus off of the act and action of the kills and instead on the fact that they happen. I appreciated that. 

However, the entire concept of the games requires that children kill children.  This is unlike just about any other movie that has violent scenes in it.  In movies like Transformers, most children are able to distinguish between reality and fiction.  I doubt that most children believe that transformers are real.  They do not have that option with characters in the The Hunger Games.  Prim and Rue remind me of the local middle school girls who played nuns in The Sound of Music, the girls who live across the street, or some of my friends who have girls that age.  Peeta and Gayle remind me of my son.

To pit my son against the middle school girl who waits for the bus at the corner of my street in a televised “kill to death” match seems barbaric to me.  I would not have my friend’s third grade daughter or fifth grade son over to watch an episode of Survivor – in which no one kills someone else off, why would I take them to The Hunger Games?

Please do not argue with me that “kids see this stuff all the time.”  If they do, that is irresponsible parenting.  I spoke to a child psychologist on Saturday while at the kids’ speech meet about this very issue.  Our children are being exposed to far too much violence in media.  Although these books/this movie have many persuading reasons for allowing children to read them/see the movie, we need to have them wait.  I cried through the entire movie!  And I was not the only one.  My child psychologist friend works with kids every day who are impacted in some way by the poor choices they and their parents are making in terms of what they are viewing.

Please do not argue with me that you cannot control what your kids read or watch.  That is a cop out. Although I know that kids can get away with things from time to time, for the most part that is because parents are not paying attention.  We need to talk to our kids, talk to our kids, talk to our kids….and then talk some more!  We need to ask what they are reading, what they are watching, and find out why those things entice them.  We need to start at a very young age to gauge and intercede when our kids read books or watch shows/movies that we would not agree with.

How do we do this?  Well, one way is to saturate your kids with “approved” reading material.  Another is to be a parent – be nosy!  In my opinion, kids should not have an expectation of privacy except when they are changing clothes.  What they read, who they talk to, and when or if they are online are all things in our control!  Take them to the library weekly, know what they are checking out from there, dig through their backpacks, talk to their teachers, check the history on the computers…and the list goes on…

I realize that we all get busy from time to time, but our children are our most important resources.  Before we just assume that a movie made from a young adult literature book is going to appropriate for them to see, we need to do our homework.  You may have very different standards for your kids than I have for mine, but all of us care about our kids.  I feel strongly that children under 12 should not be seeing this movie, but I am not a parent of an 11 year old right now.  I have the luxury of having high school kids!

However, I faced this when the Harry Potter books and movies came out. One thing that I will never regret doing is putting off their reading of the books.  And even then, we read them as a family, and we saw the movies together as a family.  This is possibly the most important thing we can do as parents.  Read what they are reading (get it on CD for the car) and watch what they are watching. 

Bottom line: we need to parent.

Parent well.

Hunger Games–Disturbing? Indeed…

Last night, feeling the pressure to get a post up on the blog because many were asking my opinion or the movie, I published a 1300+ word post (reading it now, it seems like a bit of rant) about why young children should not see the movie of The Hunger Games.  I have to admit that it was a hurried writing and not the most logical or organized. It was passionate, though, and it seems to have resonated with many readers. Thank you to those who have share it with others. I am honored any time a reader thinks something that comes from these fingers is worthy of sharing.

Obviously, I hit some kind of nerve, or else I just finally boarded The Hunger Games trend cycle.  Right now #HungerGames and @TheHungerGames as well as many variations are all over Twitter.  It’s times like these that make me realize why Twitter has its name: when we like something, we go all “a-twitter” about it, and we get “twitter-pated.”  But seriously – I published the post at 7:01 p.m. last night, and at that time only 18 people had read my blog on Saturday.  By midnight, over 200 people had read just the post about The Hunger Games with readers from Thailand, Canada, Australia, and Japan.  Wow!

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In some clear thinking after publishing the post and in reading some of the comments from readers (as well as those from many Facebook friends), I wanted to follow up on a thought that was simply lost in all of my ranting yesterday.  In other words, why was I so passionate about young children not seeing the movie?

Marilyn, a friend whose blog is Communicating Across Boundaries (I know her in the flesh as well as in the blogosphere although we have not had the same state of residence for over 10 years now), made the following comment on yesterday’s post:

…you were disturbed because we are supposed to be disturbed. Suzanne Collins wanted to make a point, and she did it well. It sounds like the movie is accurate in that it made it so real. That’s partially the issue – if kids are too young to understand the concepts then it’s not appropriate to show them. A last thought – I’ve never liked reality TV and we have never watched it (our tv watching is limited anyway, probably because of so many years overseas) but the books push reality TV to a whole new level that, given human nature, may not be that far off.

This comment made me glad that I had ranted. There are some things that kids should not read. There are some things that kids should not see.  Even if children have read the books, they may not be able to handle the screen images.  I had a hard time with it, and I am nearing 40 years of age!  And, as Marilyn state, I should have a hard time it!!  It really should not matter how old we are, the deaths of children at the hands of children (or in any way, really, but especially in this way) is disturbing.  There is no other way around it.

Marilyn’s comment made me sit back and think really hard.  Our family is similar in that we do not watch much TV.  What we do watch tends to be rented seasons of shows after we have heard or seen from various sources that we missed out on something great.  We are also the devouring type (example: we watched the entire season of Lost from April to September two years go). We are also not really into reality TV although the girl and I did catch an episode of The Bachelor which made me wonder, “Why does anyone watch this?”  That is abusive – even if there is no physical violence occurring.

I decided to consult one of my favorite parenting “check” sites for movies – PluggedIn – and found that one of the Scholastic editors, David Levithan, concurs with my friend Marilyn about the purpose of the violence in the books and the movie.

"What Suzanne [Collins] has done brilliantly is create a series that is a critique of violence using violence to get that across and that's a fine line."

I found the books and the movie disturbing…importantly so.  The books are like a shake awake, but the movie – with its images - truly drove it home.  Watching one of the tributes stung to death by a swarm of genetically engineered wasps was disturbing.  I literally covered my eyes, held my breath, and nearly prayed for the fictional character.  Even watching Katniss shoot her arrow and kill a tribute to defend little Rue was disturbing.  Their government was making them kill each other off, and the country watched on Times’ Square sized jumbo-trons in their districts’ main square.  This is disturbing.

But what are some of the messages that we are to take from this trilogy and this movie?  Are we just going to “enjoy” this movie for the sake of the violence because we have come to enjoy that as a society?  Or – are we disturbed by what we see and understand the critique of violent acts?  And what are we supposed to do with our understanding? 

Have we, like the first century Romans, become so caught up in violence that it is the only thing worth creating for television? 

A Facebook friend with whom I also attend church stated it this way: “In two thousand years we've only gone from ‘gladiators’ to ‘teenagers’ and from ‘coliseums’ to ‘theaters’.”

Will the viewing of The Hunger Games make us ready to act?  Or do they only feed our “hunger” for violence?

Are we ready to act?  Seriously – the networks would not make violent shows if we, as a society, would stop watching them.

In The Hunger Games, Gale (good male friend of main character Katniss) asks, "What if one year everyone just stopped watching? Then they wouldn't have the games."

Gale (a much more developed character in the books than in the movie) recognizes the power of the people (which, by the way, becomes even more of a message in the second and third books). He realizes that there is a way to firmly say no to the Capital, but he knows that it will take the masses to do it…he cannot do it alone.  And I cannot do it alone.  My one voice…my ten fingers…will not change our society’s hunger for violence.  Child psychologists can say all they want, but they have little power.  Parents and children have the power.

What if one day everyone did not watch television, did not rent movies, did not stream movies, and did not attend movies?  One day – a burn out – could we do it?  How about one month?  One year?  Could we stand up and say, “We want quality entertainment.”?

Sadly, I fear we could not do it.  Too many of us do not see the need.  Too many of us hunger for action.  Too many of us have lost the understanding of what is good and what is right… of what challenges our mind rather than numbing it.

It is my hope that we all find the books and movie disturbing enough to take this message and make a change.

Note: there are many more messages in the books and the movie.  Would you be interested in reading more about those messages or have I run this dry?  Please let me know!

Saturday, March 24, 2012

Oatmeal + Banana = Wonderful Muffins!

I had a weird afternoon on Thursday, and somehow I decided that I should bake. 

So bake I did!  We had three bananas that needed to be used for something besides eating, and I love All Recipes’ website.  I just typed in “bananas” and “muffins” (because I figured I could do that.  And then I perused the choices.  I came up with one that sounded yummy…and I was right!  Side note: I like to think that I usually am right.

They turned out very well!

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Click here for the recipe in its original form, but see below for the way that I did it.

Ingredients
  • 3/4 cup butter - softened
  • 3/4 cup brown sugar
  • 1/4 cup white sugar 
  • 3 eggs
  • 1-1/2 cups mashed ripe bananas
  • 3/4 cup honey
  • 2-1/4 cups all-purpose flour
  • 1-1/2 cups quick-cooking oats
  • 1-1/2 teaspoons baking powder
  • 1-1/2 teaspoons baking soda

In a mixing bowl, cream butter and sugar. Add eggs, bananas and honey; mix well. Combine dry ingredients; stir into creamed mixture just until moistened. Fill paper-lined muffin cups two-thirds full. Bake at 350 degrees F for 18-20 minutes or until cupcakes test done. Cool in pan 10 minutes before removing to a wire rack.

If you are into Weight Watchers, these are 5 points. Not too shabby.

I liked them! 

IMG-20120322-00327And my kids liked the dough, so I made 9 “dough balls,” and put them in the freezer.

Ok – before you go too nuts on me about the raw egg bit, I am not forcing them to eat these.  They asked for them, and they are nearly 18.  Soon they will need to make their own choices without me, right?  I know…I am just trying to convince myself that I did not poison them.

What are you baking lately?  What are your favorite websites for recipes? 

What are you doing reading this blog when there is a Sioux hockey game on and it is beautiful outside!?!?!?!  Seriously – is anyone else loving Minnesota’s new March?

Happy Saturday!

Friday, March 23, 2012

Surprised By Thanks

Anyone in ministry – let’s be honest…anyone who knows someone in ministry – knows that a lot of energy is expended into other people’s lives.

Ministry is physically, emotionally, and spiritually taxing.  Those who are called into serving God and others often set aside their own selves because the needs can be great. 

Someone is in the hospital.

Someone has passed away.

Someone needs encouragement.

Sermons need to be written, board meetings need to be attended, and the list goes on.

And the families of those in ministry often partner with the ministers. There is sacrifice.  With my huz as a pastor (minister…whatever your church calls the one who leads the flock), I know this life from the inside.

I would like to share with you how I was surprised by thanks this week and the joy that it brought me. 

IMG-20120322-00325When I arrived home on Wednesday from a long day at work and shuffling the kids to school, from school, and off to church for youth group, I found these beauties on my kitchen table.  I have to admit that I was shocked to see a dozen roses sitting on my dining room table.  I was even more shocked when I read the card.  The person who sent the flowers thanked me for sharing my husband during a time of need.  This gesture recognized me for the role that I play in ministry and showed appreciation for the (somewhat) hidden partner of the ministry team.

The gift seemed to be too much.

It was overwhelming.

I was completely surprised by it.

And it brought me great joy.

Ministry is not easy.  Anyone who says that it is might not be doing it well.  But the best things in life are rarely those that are easy.  The easiest things in life rarely bring such overwhelming, speech-stopping, and breathtaking joy.  I am honored to be part of the ministry to which my husband has been called.  This is just one example of the way that it brings joy into our lives.

How do you show thanks?  How have you been shown thanks? 

Are you in ministry (paid or not)?  What is the best way that you have been thanked? 

Is God calling you to thank someone in ministry?

Thursday, March 22, 2012

The Piano Guys

Last week, I had one of those days that we all have.  It was productive enough, but there was not anything new or wonderful coming from this girl’s mind, fingers, or anything.  I did what I needed to do with work, I did laundry, I cleaned the kitchen, and…well…I watched YouTube videos of this awesome duo who play the piano and the cello in a way that is fun, innovative, and exciting.

I found The Piano Guys through the Facebook friend of a Facebook friend (who happens to have been a youth pastor in Bismarck, ND, when I was in high school…she is now a missionary in Japan). She had posted a link about their version of Coldplay’s Paradise that has an African twist – both in scenery and in language. Can we say cool? Yes…

Their arrangements are awesome, and I am pretty tempted to buy one of their CDs. The problem is that what makes them so awesome is their videos and their arrangements. The locations that they choose, the videography, and the musicians themselves make this performance so inspiring to me.

Believe me – my day last week completely changed when I spent a little time with these “guys.”  They completely turned the day around for me.

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Do I have a favorite?  I do!  Can you guess from the picture above?

Take a listen.  Then share your favorites with me in the comment section!

Happy Thursday! 

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Recent Reads

In the past few weeks, I have read (actually listened) two great books.  My new car habit is to have at least two books along for the many rides that I take.  It takes 20 minutes to drive to and from work. That is 40 minutes of “reading” that I cannot waste!  And that is the shortest drive in my weekly routine.  This new habit has become a great comfort to me, and I feel as though the characters or the authors (depending on the genre) are like friends riding with me…spinning their tales or imparting their wisdom. 

If anyone would ask me what my favorite kind of book to read is, I would not be able to answer that well.  In fact, I would have to answer with only what I prefer not to read: science fiction.  Why?  I honestly do not know, but I am just not into aliens and other world when I am reading.  When I watch movies, I am fine with a little Star Wars, etc.

And…I digress…back to my current reading list…

half broke horsesThe first book was Half Broke Horses by Jeannette Walls (author of The Glass Castle which is also a compelling read).  This novel is somewhat biography and somewhat tale.  By her own admission, Walls brings the spirit of her grandmother’s life story – beginning in 1900 - to life with some author liberties.  I was completely and totally captivated by the main character – Lily – from whose perspective Walls write the novel.  From the first sentence to the last, I found that I learned from Lily, wanted to be Lily, and resonated with Lily.  Even though there were parts where we might butt heads, for the most part I think that Lily and I would have made great friends.  From her perseverance to pursue her dream of teaching to her frustration with injustice in the world, I find her to be a kindred spirit with whom I would love to have coffee and simply listen to her tell stories.

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On the complete other end of the genre spectrum is the other book I have listened to over the past few weeks – Mircrotrends  by Mark J. Penn who was a senior level advisor to both Bill and Hillary Clinton.  Over the course of 10 disks, Penn takes readers/ listeners through 75 small trends (read the book to find out what the definition of a microtrend is).  Trust me when I say that Penn has picked trends that will interest just about anyone!  Trends in parenting, the trends in singleness, religious trends, and so much more.  If you are into numbers (I am when they are fun!), you will love this book. 

There is plenty to think about from reading this book as well as plenty to argue with (mostly in your own head).  The best part, though, is that he uses humor, personal examples, and story to illustrate the numbers.  In his conclusion, he used an example about the number of jam options in a grocery store.  Consumers will actually be overwhelmed by 24 jam choices to the point that we don’t buy jam.  In contrast, having only 6 jam choices boost sales.  It made me think of the school choice law in Minnesota.  Smart books do that to you, and that is what this book did to me.  Very cool!

What are you reading lately and would you recommend it?  If you are not currently reading (or listening) to something, why are you not?

Images of both books taken from amazon.com.

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Finishing the School Year Well

As I write this, my windows are open with a cool breeze coming in.  It must be May…

Guess again!

kids busIt is March 19, and I saw several school children wearing shorts at bus stops today. My school has not even had spring break yet!  As if it not hard enough to finish the school year once May weather arrives in May, we now have May-like weather in March with at least 10 weeks of school left to go.  How in the world will we ever get to the end of the school year?  What normally is a topic of discussion mid-April or later is a good topic to consider today.

How can parents, friends, and family help those who are in school to finish the school year well?  I thought about this on my ride home from work yesterday, and I think that there are some key factors to remember.

Devote time each day to review what needs to be done.

My daughter is a major planner.  If something is due in a week, she looks at how busy the time between now and then will be and schedules work time so that it can be done on time.  I did not teach her this, so I do not know where she gets it! 

When the kids were little, their teachers required them to write down their assignments for every subject every day, to their planner to a parent, and then to have us to sign off on their planners meaning that we had seen what they needed to do.  This created a great habit in them to be sure that they knew what was due tomorrow, the next day, and the next. It also created a great habit in us – their “responsible parents” – to ask about their homework and what was do. 

This does not have to be time consuming.  Having a planner helps.  And this cuts down on last minute panic (even though we have had those moments…even the best plans can go hay-wire) for both the students and the parents.  Many schools have online grade books; find out how to use those now so that you can keep tabs on what needs to be turned in and how your child has done in school. 

Parents are the key to their own students’ successes in school.

As a parent, have high expectations.

We do not pay our children for grades.  Instead, we expect them to do the best that they can.  We expect them to be A students because we think they can be A students in most areas.  If they cannot be A students, we want them to be able to tell us why.  Being A students requires that they work hard, that they plan ahead, and that they master material.  Their pay-off will come later because they will have worked hard and mastered material thus making them better citizens in the future.  A little disclaimer here: our children do not struggle with school nor do they have learning disabilities, so I am not expecting anything from them that they cannot attain or articulate.  For students with learning disabilities, I would suggest that parents consult with their children’s teachers in order to set expectations.  That being said, I think that all students need to have expectations that ask them to stretch, learn, and grow.

These expectations should never slack off.  It does not matter how nice it is outside, how busy the children are, or how many days are left to the end of the school year.  We need to have high expectations that are consistent and that endure from the start of the school year until the end.  Our children will take their cues from us as parents.   If we give them any lee-way when it comes to their schoolwork, they will take that and run with it.  Instead, we need to have high expectations from the start of the school year to the end of the school.

As parents, we need to model studious behavior and do “work” together as a family.

Whether we simply read a book while they complete their schoolwork or write a blog post (ha!), we should model studious behavior so that we can all be in it together.  I think that part of the problem with children disliking homework is because sometimes their parents are doing fun things like watching television.  If we normalize study as something that we do as part of our ongoing lives, kids will be more apt to see it as something we all do rather than something they do while we have fun.

Imagine this as part of your routine: have the kids help with dinner preparations and clean up, then sit down together in the family room to read books.  Working together makes it seem like less of a chore for everyone.  And whoever said that study should be a chore?  I love to read; my kids love to read.  If parents who do not like to read at least pretended that they did every now and then, their kids might love to read as well.  Reading is such a fundamental skill, and the only way to get better at it is to do it.  So – read (or stare at a book – you never know, maybe it will be interesting eventually) and encourage your kids to read.

Another idea is for parents to apply skills learned in school while the kids are studying.  Imagine if you pay bills while their kids do their math homework.  It can be interesting to be able to use the same skills they are when they are.  If they ask you what you are doing, just say, “Oh, a little application of math.”  GREAT idea!   The other day the tech guru at my kids’ high school theater applied pre-calculus concepts to the set design; my daughter was very impressed.

Schedule play time for all.

One of the reasons that kids get burned out on school is that it can take over their lives.  We all need to let off some steam.  With the reduction of time spent outdoors during the school day, that time needs to be increased at home.  Schedule time for work, yes, but also schedule time for play – outdoors or inside – for the entire family.  I am not talking about sitting in front of the television. In fact, I am pretty much an opponent of television.  What I am talking about is getting active, getting involved in each others’ lives, and playing games – bocci ball on the lawn or Ticket to Ride (Europe version is my favorite) in the house. Get a family membership to the YMCA.  Take a walk together.  Whatever it takes – give the brain a break so that it work well when it needs to do so.

So….to wrap it up…

It’s not easy to stick it out when there is an end in sight, but this is one of the most important aspects of any family’s life.  Maybe it would be a lot easier if schools were year round, but that is most likely another blog post.

What tips do you have for finishing the school year well?  How can friends and family members support kids as they finish the school year?

Monday, March 19, 2012

Buffalo Chicken Strips!

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Last night we had to use of some chicken that was in the refrigerator.  I was happy to consume it because my huz turned it into such yumminess!

IMG-20120318-00320We found that Shore Lunch makes the best buffalo chicken seasoning.

Combine some of this with Kickin’ Chicken (a spice found at Sam’s Club) and some bread crumbs to create a breading.  Make an egg wash.

Bread the chicken strips a first time, then dip in the egg wash before breading a second time.  Fry it up in some vegetable oil until golden brown and cooked all the way through.  Consume it and enjoy!  A side of buffalo sauce and bleu cheese make yummy additions for dipping.  I also like to eat celery with this.

Love it!

Sunday, March 18, 2012

Eyebrow Raising Moments–Round Three

When I am out and about, I see things that make me stop long enough to take the picture.  You just never know when you might see things that make your eyebrows raise, so I am very thankful for the camera in my phone.

The winner – the best thing that made me stop in awe – is the handiwork of workers at the Fridley Cub Foods. Either they are really dedicated to advertising and being relevant, or they had too much time on their hands.

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I guess everyone loves a little March Madness.  And I love a little can of Coca-Cola!

The next photo comes from the recommendation of my daughter’s friend.

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This really is the best lip gloss every. As it says, it “applies gently to sore lips.”  I felt better just looking at the box; imagine how good it felt actually on my lips!

The last photo for this edition of Eyebrow Raising Moments comes to you from the Maplewood Mall Barnes and Noble store.

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Ironically, I was on my way to the bathroom when I passed this book in the children’s section of the store.

Hope your day is great!

Saturday, March 17, 2012

Lucky? Yes–I Am!

St. Patrick’s Day’s origins would make a much more profound blog post that the one that I am choosing to write. The rich history behind the saint himself, the country of Ireland and its religious strife, and just the folklore itself would be a great blog post. However, all week long I have thought about today’s post, and one thought keeps coming back to me.

I feel like I am the luckiest person alive right now.

To be honest, more often than not, when I look backwards on my 37 years, I sometimes can only see the negative things that have happened in my life.  I have written posts about those and the lessons I have learned or the way that I have seen God’s hand in all of it. To a certain extent, though, I have realized that sometimes I need to make a list of all the things for which I am thankful.  When I do that, I feel blessed – amazingly so – or…if you will, I feel lucky.

usI am thankful for my husband.  I appreciate him so much.  We do not have the perfect marriage, but that is because neither one of us is perfect.  The difference between a good marriage and a bad one is in the acceptance that two imperfect persons cannot have a perfect marriage.  It will always take work; we need to daily choose to sacrifice our own individual wills for the good of the two that has become one.  I am daily thankful for the fact that we have each chosen to remember this on more days than not.  I am daily thankful that we have given each other permission to call each other out when our personal wills get in the way of the good of the marriage or the family.

kidsI am thankful for my children.  They bless me as individuals as well as together.  When they put their minds to do great things, they achieve great things.  They each have their strengths, and they often complement each other when completing a task.  I am impressed by them, and they motivate me to be a better mother.  I am thankful that they are growing into amazing adults-to-be, and I am thankful that I have a few more years with them before they go off to do great things in the world.

I am thankful for the church family with whom we minister at Faith Baptist Church in North Minneapolis.  I am thankful for the that many of them play in the raising of my children.  Just last night I shared with a friend about the numerous men and women from our church who have played key roles – no matter how small – in helping us raise our children.  This is the key to changing the way that youth are growing up today.  I am thankful that I have been called into this community, and I pray that some day all children would have communities like this (faith based or otherwise) to assist in their development.

The list continues…but I have a speech meet to attend as a judge.

In what ways do you consider yourself lucky today?

Friday, March 16, 2012

Soup Off 2012–The Winning Recipes

Our church has a weekly children’s program called AWANA, an internationally known organization that promotes Scripture memory.  In the spring of each year, there is a Grand Prix where kids in grades 3 – 6 race cars that they have made themselves from the AWANA approved block of wood.  The church youth group has capitalized on this Wednesday by hosting an annual “Soup Off” competition as a fundraiser.

How It Works

  • Youth group students, parents, and sponsors work the meal
  • We recruit contestants to enter a soup in the “game” – it costs $5 to enter
  • Between 15-25 soups enter each year for the prize – a soup ladel!
  • People pay to eat and vote for their top three soups
  • Church attendees donate bars for dessert – thanks to those who did!
  • A local grocery store (thanks, Cub!) donates bread to go with the soup
  • Winners are announced in the middle of the Grand Prix

Last year, my sweet girl won with her raspberry white chocolate dessert soup (I think the brownie croutons pushed the voters over the edge).  This year, with dessert soups banned, there was some super tough competition.

My personal favorite – the Buffalo Chicken Soup – did not make it into the top three, but it gets the prize of being named on my blog!  I cannot wait to get that recipe!

Last year, all four of my family members (that includes me) entered soups. This year, the boy took the year off.  But I was proud that we had a 75% family involvement rating! 

See our entries below:

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Now for the moment that you have been waiting for – The 2012 Soup Off Winners!

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  In 3rd place (represented in the photo by her daughter) is Shari Fehr with her Creamy Tomato Soup.

  In 2nd place is my sweet girl -  Beth Bender – with her Curry Pumpkin Soup.

  *insert drum roll here*

  *wait for it……*

And in 1st place is Lori Hetteen with her North Woods Wild Rice Soup.  If you know Lori, ask her for some fun details about the story behind newest prize offered by my pastor huz.  On second thought, ask her husband.

And now for the real moment you have all been waiting for – the recipes!

Creamy Tomato Soup by Shari Fehr

3 stalks celery
4 sprigs flat-leaf parsley
1 medium onion
2 29-oz. cans tomato puree (no salt added)
1 46-oz. can tomato juice
1 1/2 tsp. salt (more or less to taste)
1/2 tsp. white pepper
1/2 cup sugar
1 1/2 sticks butter
1/2 Tbsp. whole cloves
1 qt. half and half
3/4 tsp. baking soda

Puree celery, parsley, and onion together in food processor. Pour into 6-qt. slow cooker and add tomato puree and tomato juice. Add salt, white pepper, sugar, and butter. Place whole cloves in muslin bag or tea infuser and add to tomato mixture. Simmer in slow cooker approximately 4 hours. About 1/2 hour before serving, combine approximately 2 cups of the tomato mixture with the half and half, and then slowly whisk the combination back into the tomato mixture. (This helps prevent curdling.) Return to temperature, and then whisk in 3/4 tsp. soda for a more frothy texture. Remove cloves, and serve.

Curry Pumpkin Soup by Elizabeth Bender

  • 1/4 cup pumpkin seeds (optional – this chef did not use)
  • 1/4 cup butter
  • 1/4 cup and 2 tablespoons all-purpose flour
  • 1/4 cup curry powder
  • 8 cups vegetable broth
  • 2 (29 ounce) cans pumpkin
  • 3 cups half-and-half cream
  • 1/4 cup soy sauce
  • 2 tablespoons white sugar
  • salt and pepper to taste
  1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C). Arrange pumpkin seeds in a single layer on a baking sheet. Toast in preheated oven for about 10 minutes, or until seeds begin to brown.
  2. Melt butter in a large pot over medium heat. Stir in flour and curry powder until smooth. Cook, stirring, until mixture begins to bubble. Gradually whisk in broth, and cook until thickened. Stir in pumpkin and half-and-half. Season with soy sauce, sugar, salt, and pepper. Bring just to a boil, then remove from heat. Garnish with roasted pumpkin seeds.

North Woods Wild Rice Soup by Lori Hetteen

Chef’s note: I adapted this from a cookbook called "Don't Panic - Dinner's in the Freezer.”  Author’s note: I am on my way over to your freezer, Lori Hetteen!

  • 1/2 lb bacon, fried, drained, and crumbled
  • 1/2 small onion, diced
  • 1/2 c celery, chopped
  • 1/4 c butter
  • 3 T flour
  • 1/2 t salt
  • 1/2 t thyme
  • 1/2 t paprika
  • 1 1/2 c cooked chicken breast, shredded or cubed
  • 1-10oz can chicken broth
  • 1 T Worcestershire sauce
  • 1 c milk
  • 1 1/2 c half-and-half
  • 1 1/2 c cooked wild rice
  • 1 can cream of mushroom soup
  • sliced almonds browned in a little butter

Saute onion and celery in butter until tender.  Stir in flour, salt, thyme, and paprika.  Heat until bubbly.  Add cooked chicken, chicken broth, Worcestershire sauce, milk, half-and-half, and cream of mushroom soup, stirring until thickened.  Fold in rice and bacon.  Serve topped with almonds.  (Yields 6 large bowls of soup)

And that, my friends, is how you win a soup off!

What great ideas does your community (church or otherwise) have to bring people together?